Let’s be real—potty training doesn’t always go the way we hope. One minute your toddler is thrilled about their superhero underwear, and the next they’re hiding behind the couch to poop in a pull-up. If you’re in the middle of potty training chaos, you’re not alone. And no, you’re not doing anything wrong.
Let’s talk honestly about when potty training goes sideways—and how to reset without losing your mind (or your laundry).
First: It’s Totally Normal to Hit a Wall
Every kid is different. Just because your friend’s kid was fully trained by 2 doesn’t mean yours will follow the same timeline. Some toddlers don’t show real interest until 3.5 or later, and that’s okay.
Sometimes what feels like defiance is actually your child saying, “I’m just not ready yet.” And that’s fair.
Why Potty Training Might Stall
Here are a few common culprits:
- Too much pressure (they can feel it—even if you’re being chill)
- Big changes at home (new baby, new daycare, etc.)
- Fear of pooping on the potty (it’s a thing!)
- Constipation (often overlooked, but major)
- Inconsistent routines (between home and daycare, for example)
Understanding the “why” helps you take a breath and figure out the “what next.”
What to Do Instead
1. Take a Break—Seriously
Put the potty stuff away for a week or two. No reminders, no pressure, just a reset. Sometimes the break is what both of you need.
2. Keep It Simple
No need to reinvent the wheel. Maybe just add a fun potty book or bring back the sticker chart. Tiny changes go a long way.
3. Make It Routine
Turn it into a habit like brushing teeth. Try after meals, before bath, or when changing clothes. Keep the tone super casual.
4. Ease the Fear
If they’re scared to poop on the potty, let them sit on it with their diaper on. Then try with the diaper open. Baby steps still count.
5. Celebrate the Effort
Clapping for just trying? Yes, absolutely. High five for sitting and wiping? 100%. Progress isn’t just dry pants—it’s building confidence.
When to Ask for Help
If your child is past 4 and still hasn’t made much progress, or if you’re dealing with daily constipation or withholding, call your pediatrician. No shame in asking for support.
Potty training is a big milestone, but it’s not a race. You’re not behind. You’re not failing. You’re learning alongside your child. Take it one puddle at a time.
You’ve got this, mama. And if today was a pull-up day? That’s okay too.
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